The Difference In Genders

We discussed briefly about gender communications in class. I was wondering why people are so serious about this topic, until I had thought about it myself. Are there any differences in verbal commination based off gender alone? In my opinion, no there aren’t. The reason I believe that is because we are all humans, besides alterations in our physical appearance or organs, we don’t have much else that’s different. Although society forces different linguistic practices for each genders. The article for chapter 13 also mentioned feminism. This is a key example of what trying to gain equality is capable of. Feminism is only for females hence why males can’t be a part of it even if they support the movement.

Often times people mistake the terms gender and sex. Your gender is whatever socially you believe yourself to be, while sex is what you are biologically, only male or female. In the past I remember the first time I met someone who looked like a man but told everyone they were female. It was confusing at first because society didn’t teach us this in school so how were we supposed to know? Eventually I learned to accept people regardless of what there gender or sex is.

PROBLEMS! PROBLEMS! PROBLEMS!

We’ve all at one point in our lives gone through some sort of problem. While we figure out a resolution, the problem would give us stress, anxiety and unwanted frustration. In business this is a common occurrence and is known as conflict and resolution. This can also be applied to our daily lives, such as when we are in a relationship. We often try to negotiate things when problems arise with our loved ones. In my case, my girlfriend would often eat too much and have stomach problems. The food itself wasn’t healthy either, so the conflict was me having to hear her complaining. I negotiated her by saying I’d get her anything she wanted one time a week if she would stop eating so much and eat healthier. In the end, the negotiation worked. In terms of business, conflict could occur with the public, partners, managers, or employees. This is why the business jobs are on the slightly higher stress scale depending on your position and how many conflicts you are approached by. These skills we can learn through conflict and resolution are valuable in so many more ways then just our daily lives. It’s something that can be used to help others deal with their own issues as well. The best thing to do when approached by any conflict is to think, what can I do to fix this problem? Do I have to fix it? What would be the consequence? Things like this are what make it easier to figure out the resolution.

A Bad Reaction

Negative reactions happen all the time. Everyone is bound to get a bad reaction at some point, but why does this happen? In class we brought up some examples of triggers that would cause a negative reaction. Some examples included things like demands, rejection, annoyance, one upping, and mind reading. In my opinion, the thing that makes me have a negative reaction is when someone acts like they are better than you, like they have more to say just in an attempt to try and belitlle the other person to make themselves feel good. That consistently makes me have a negative reaction, the other thing is when someone annoys me. It’s unnecessary stress that shouldn’t exist in the first place. Whenever someone consistently annoys me, I usually just get them out of my life or stop communicating with them if they choose not to stop after being asked. As for management strategies, I try to manage by asking outright first. If the person doesn’t feel like doing what I asked, I ignore them and try to stop communicating with them in certain cases. We also read bout digital blackface, also known as black reaction gifs. In my opinion, it’s just because the gifs are able to convey more funnier expressions that appeal to the audience then regular gifs. Some people prefer those gifs while others prefer regular gifs, I believe it’s not anything complicated. Some people prefer regular gifs while others prefer blackface gifs, gifs are supposed to be fun reactions, if the gif is amazing than it doesn’t matter if it’s a regular or blackface gif.

Cultural Importance

One of the things we looked at from chapter 12, was cultural identity. It was significant to me because I value my culture as a part of myself. It’s something you grow up with and will keep for your entire life so you have to accept it as a part of yourself. I think culture is important not only for your own benefit, but it let’s people have some idea of what kind of background you come from. It let’s people know that you’re from a unique place, with unique foods, and unique clothes. It gives you an identity you otherwise wouldn’t have. Coming from a less known place is cool and so is coming from a well known place. Each culture has it’s own amazing things behind it, which create that identity. You can also represent your culture through your accent. This is sometimes looked down upon when you come to America, but with enough time you will adjust. People sometimes don’t understand you if you have an accent, and other times you might have a harder time finding a job. The thing is… You should accept your accent as a part of your identity and culture! Don’t be ashamed, it’s a part of yourself. Humans need to learn to respect each culture, but people enjoy bringing others down to make themselves feel better. One day we might get to the point where we do actually respect each person and their background.

THE DARK SIDE

During our review for the midterm this week, we mentioned the Dark Side in class. The dark side of a relationship is the part no one likes to talk about. It’s the thing most people hate about relationships, and the reason some try to avoid them. Essentially it’s the cheating, lying or the worst one, aggression along with abuse. It reminds me of the time I had my first relationship. Not only was it full of lying and cheating, she ended up introducing me to the guy she was cheating on me with. It was something that I didn’t fully understand at the time because every relationship isn’t the same. I assumed it was normal for this to happen because it was one of my first experiences. This lead to a break of trust, arguments and eventually we did break up. The experience made me lose trust in people easily. I started doubting people I met because they could be hiding their true intentions. The people you rely on change, even if they helped you at the start, they might turn on you eventually. It also gave me an opportunity to build my self up , to have better control over people I let into my life. There can be some good in a bad relationship, even if it isn’t as obvious. This was one of the more interesting topics we have covered so far, having more information on how to deal with these situations is valuable.

Would You Take Advantage? (Wed March 20)

In a scenario where someone is in an emotional state, they give you an opportunity to take advantage of them. Would you do it? Well that’s basically what we discussed in class today. We watched a video about Ross and Green interacting in Green’s bedroom. She was down about her father being in the hospital and tried to give Ross the opportunity to do some things together as a way of thanks. Since he was there for her as a caring friend, she wanted to take it a step further and let him have her. He didn’t take advantage of her feelings because he knew it was only out of sadness for her family and her appreciation for what he did. I’d honestly not reject an offer like this , simply because if a person feels better with being together during the night. I’d do it for them just because of that. She felt comfortable giving him the advantage, and he shouldn’t have turned her down in my opinion. He wasn’t manipulating her because she was aware of what was going on.

Just as how I’d totally regret leaving a friend who was asking for a good time. I would try my best to give them what they wanted if this was the case. Would you?

Toxic Relationships

While I was studying for the chapter 9 quiz, sWhile I was studying for the chapter 9 quiz, some of the terms made me remember a time where I had a toxic relationship. The terms domestic partners, dyad, dyadic breakdown, grave dressing….etc…\n\nIn a way, I could understand the importance of knowing when a relationship was toxic, but having the courage to do something about it is a different story. When someone puts a lot of effort into something they love, letting it go is a bit too difficult to do immediately. Hence why it slowly breaks a person\’s well being and harms their mental health. For instance, when you think of the phrase \” grave dressing \” from chapter 9. Reaching that stage where each of us can admit to our faults and what we could have done to fix them is difficult. People have too much pride these days and refuse to admit what mistakes they have committed. In a toxic relationship , a person could be getting taken advantage and moving on from this point forward is different for each individual. One could break off the relationship, another could try fixing it or they can take a break from each other temporarily.ome of the terms made me remember a time where I had a toxic relationship. The terms domestic partners, dyad, dyadic breakdown, grave dressing….etc…

In a way, I could understand the importance of knowing when a relationship was toxic, but having the courage to do something about it is a different story. When someone puts a lot of effort into something they love, letting it go is a bit too difficult to do immediately. Hence why it slowly breaks a person’s well being and harms their mental health. For instance, when you think of the phrase ” grave dressing ” from chapter 9. Reaching that stage where each of us can admit to our faults and what we could have done to fix them is difficult. People have too much pride these days and refuse to admit what mistakes they have committed. In a toxic relationship , a person could be getting taken advantage and moving on from this point forward is different for each individual. One could break off the relationship, another could try fixing it or they can take a break from each other temporarily.

Are we actually leaving our seats to do classwork?

An interesting development had taken place during this weeks class. It was one of those strange class days in which we have the opportunity to actually leave the class in order to accomplish our goal. Have you ever wondered why teachers don’t do this more often? It is because most teachers don’t like the idea of giving students total control , as going out the class will cause the teacher unable to monitor the progress of the students. Hence it can lead to group members goofing off instead of doing the actual assignment! Like I have experienced in the past. Thankfully, everyone in my group contributed a portion of the work. We all went to McDonalds, and measured how loud each portion of the restaurant got. This reminded me of how much different college is in comparison to any previous level of school. It retains a certain characteristic alongside a standard towards what students have adapted to. I enjoyed the unique experience because it only happens on rare occasions. Considering this is a “Communication” class, socializing isn’t my best skill, therefore it also makes sense that we work in groups. If we were working alone, wouldn’t that just make the whole point of “Communicating Class” worthless? Not only was it healthier to have us walk, it was also a much more interesting experience.

Are College Students Broke?

We’ve heard it before and this week in Chapter 6, it’s talked about to an extent. Do college students have extra money to spend? In my opinion, the majority due not. How would a kid who’s just turned 18 have any way to gain financial stability without relying on their parents? It’s ridiculous to expect a person who lacks experience and knowledge in any field to have enough money to support themselves , let alone money to spend on random junk not related to college work.

When we run out of money, we ask for more from our parents. This requires some communication. Along some other portions of chapter 6, a fear of public speaking is mentioned. It made me remember a time in which I had to talk in front of an audience of over 600 students. At the time I panicked, started sweating, and even messed up the words I was trying to say. The fear isn’t the part of communicating using your words, it’s the way people judge you no matter how you act. Thinking that your public image is ruined, as the result if you mess up the speech. The psychological burden is given when you think of the risks that come with public speaking. If you forget about the risks and ignore the outcome, you’ll have an easier time in scenarios that involve communicating with a large audience like I did.

Why Even Bother?

Communication doesn’t exactly sound too complicated… Yet people don’t realize how deeply complex it truly is. In relation to media, they both premeate our society. Such as we learned in the text “Analyzing Texts: Media And Theory” the main types are interpersonal (1 on 1), mass (1 to many), organizational (maintain and organize behavior), and Intercultural (exchange between different cultures). The real question is…. Why Even bother creating new forms of communication, when we already have so many? They signal cultural values but is their really any reason to continue creating new ways to exchange information? In this case after gathering my thoughts I reached to a conclusion.

It’s to make us constantly entertained! I figured out the reason I’d even bother creating new ways to communicate. Think of the media, having a way to exchange information through articles, internet, videos, and even voice recordings. Not only did it make it easier to put your thoughts across, it created various other ways to keep us entertained. Such as a site like Facebook that can maintain gossips, and practically runs on people interacting different with ideologies. The media plays an important role for communication, it offers powerful tools that can make use of many methods in order to exchange information. This can also be seen on our Facebook accounts, which we use on everyday life.